"Avoiding negativity, agitation, and anger has changed my life immeasurably. That doesn’t mean no one can get angry around me or at me, nor does it mean I won’t support people who are having times when they are negative or agitated. I understand, support, and also have all those emotions. I get it and won’t avoid people for being, y’know, human.

But if that’s the predominant personality trait or traits someone embraces and I have to constantly navigate those things to be around someone, then I’m gonna take a hard pass. It’s not that I’m mean or insensitive, it’s that I have to protect my mental health. Those types of dominant personality traits are usually turned up to 11 and create a splash zone I don’t want to be anywhere near. Plus, I speak from experience when I say it’s too easy for those characteristics to rub off on me and suddenly I’m angry and agitated all the time too.

Ugh, no.

When I’m around people whose aim is to be happy and calm, whose goals are to quietly spread love in anonymity and enthusiastically respect peace for and in others, I have a healthier outlook on life.

So now “please take responsibility for the energy you bring into my space” is an immovable boundary that is not up for discussion because constantly agitated people rarely take that kind of responsibility."

— Noomi