It’s easy to get lost in the “we,” and find YOU being smothered, changed, and sometimes lost in service to the couple—or to your partner's wants and desires above your own. 

I do change in relationships. Of course I do. I care about my partners and their wants and needs. 

🧠 🧐 But I think about and consciously CHOOSE those changes. 🧐 🧠

I don't just allow them to ask for (or demand) change and hold the relationship or their affection hostage to force the issue. 

In fact, if they do that, I'm out. My relationships are collaborative, not combative and dictatorial.