Healthy relationships require trust.
"YES, the light bulb that you just replaced on the front porch burnt out. I watched it. Yes, I'm sure. No, I didn't replace it with the old one to get attention."
Both ways.
I need to trust my partner, and I need to be trusted by my partner. And not just in the big ways, like fidelity, loyalty, and vulnerability, but also in the 🤏🏻 teeny-tiny ways.
If you've ever been accused of the smallest, most inane things by an intimate partner you know what I mean.
"YES, the light bulb that you just replaced on the front porch burnt out. I watched it. Yes, I'm sure. No, I didn't replace it with the old one to get attention."
"I find you sexy. I just said so, didn't I? No, I'm not just saying that. You didn't ask me, I just told you because I was thinking it."
"Wait. Are you seriously suggesting I didn't use the restroom in the truck stop? What do you think I did? Oh, you don't know, but it doesn't take that long to go to the bathroom? This is gonna be a long drive..."
I'm willing to engage with some insecurities, but when I am not trusted by my partner, it is not only hurtful, but it also wears me down, makes me feel less valued, and I feel like i'm walking on eggshells.
That's not healthy for me.
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